Monday, December 31, 2012

Oh Shit! Hillary Clinton hospitalized after blood clot discovered

Everybody: keep our girl in your prayers (if you do so), your meditations or just your thoughts.

Via Back2Stonewall

Former First lady and current Secretary of State Hillary Clinton has been checked into New York Presbyterian hospital after doctors found a blood clot during a check-up following her concussion earlier this month. Hillary fell and suffered a concussion while at home alone in mid-December as she recovered from a stomach virus that left her severely dehydrated.

According to CNN:

Secretary Clinton is expected to remain at New York Presbyterian Hospital for the next 48 hours so doctors can monitor her condition and treat her with anti-coagulants, said Philippe Reines, deputy assistant secretary of state.

“Her doctors will continue to assess her condition, including other issues associated with her concussion,” Reines said. “They will determine if any further action is required.”

Our best wished to Hillary and a hopeful speedy recovery.

Visual Proof that Dame Maggie Smith is Better Than All of Us

I'm actually more afeared of her as the Dowager Countess than I ever was of her as Hera!

Via BuzzFeed

Monday Beau

My future husband (a.k.a. Perfection) via MEN by Sean

Sunday, December 30, 2012

My Life in a Bottle

It's been a while since I've done this post...or with the holiday, it feels like it's been a while.

I thought I'd do something a little different. Previously, I'd posted composites or amalgamations of my writings about my life in AA. I'd take different entries that I'd written in my journals or AA assignments and tried to edit them somewhat for public consumption. This time, though, I'm giving you, verbatim, my journal entry from this morning. It may or may not make sense: I try to start writing, get out of my way, and let the writing take me wherever it needs to.

How to start. "Dear Believer"? "Hey God. It's me. Writer."? I don't know how to talk, to pray, to write, to meditate. I feel like I have to address someone. But I cringe at that. Like I said, I sound hokey. And that is my own judgment. I'm amazed at how judgmental I am. To the degree that I can or someone else can say I have "good taste" that is fine, but past that it's debilitating. I can't speak. I can't write. I can't be. Knocking over and spilling coffee becomes a catastrophe, when it actually allowed L. to get fresh coffee. I feared judgment - "Op. Writer's getting out of hand. You spaz." But that is my judgment projected and reflected back at me. Everyone left cause it was 10:30. Not out of embarrassment. I wasn't being abandoned, but that part of me that needs outside approval - a huge, fucking child, still in diapers and sucking its thumb - sees it, saw it that way. I know this. I write it down. Is that enough?

Threads. Pick one up. Follow it.

In writing things down, I hope I accept it. I give airy thought concrete form. Instead of a myriad ways of expressing a thing, I give it one chain of words. But then there's still other lines of attack, so I write it again and again. Each new expression is, I hope, another facet of acceptance. Alcohol is not the only thing I'm powerless over. There are certain - for the lack of a better phrase - thought-patterns that led to my HIV then on to my alcoholism and to here. And by these pages I seek to make within myself the space, the spirit, the approval, the love that AA and my new family make outside myself. I have to get out of my way. To listen. And to write down what I hear. Threads. I follow the thread. To the end. I write it down. This is my prayer. I believe in a god. It is the universe. It is all around me, and I am a part of it. I am it. We all our [sic]. With self-will, I am trying to remove myself from that embrace. Alcoholism, addiction is the pain of trying to create that loneliness [isolation]. Ripping, rending, tearing. Tearing a muscle. Breaking a bone. But as with a muscle or a bone, it is still within, encased, embraced. Removal is not actually possible. Pain is just another state of being. Growth. Loneliness is not actually possible. Self-will is. But it seems to be more a misdirection, a misunderstanding. Like S. last night, we fight against the things we come to enjoy. We think we need more. Like Amelie, we dip our hands into baskets of beans. We take pleasure in simple things. We contemplate simple things. We make small snowmen and try to not ache too much at their loss when they melt.

We do not see. We think we are alone.

There was something I went to sleep with. There was the spilled coffee and then some thought involving J. I can't remember what it was now, but it seemed important and upsetting at the time. Did it solve itself in my sleep? I don't remember any dreams. It now seems silly to worry about being away from J. - that separation will make the heart grow forgetful - when everytime after we've been apart, when we meet again, it becomes clear how much more we want each other. On my part, I know this is true. And I cannot change J., so I accept that there is a degree of not knowing, and I accept the surprise and joy of relearning. I think he feels the same, and I see the same surprise and joy when suddenly we fall into each other again. Acceptance seems so frightening. Like C. said, it is simply not easy.

Dear God. Dear Believer. Dear Universe. Dear HP. Dear AA family. Please help me not drink today. I've already lost enough days, enough moments of joy and pain. Even pain is mine - without it I do not know joy - it marks the end, that what came before was important or it tells me that I'm growing, that I'm hungry, that something is missing, that I need to reconnect to you - whatever, whoever you are. Pain tells me that I'm seeking outside myself for something that surely, if I look, I can find within. And surely I should only need to find within. It is difficult. It sounds lonely. Self-contained. But is it? I have my meetings, my AA family, my new friends, my old friend, my bio. family - some of them. [I hope soon to have J.] I am surrounded by people. All I have to do is pick up the phone. AA isn't the only thing that works via attraction rather than promotion.

I'm not expecting this to make any sort of narrative or linear sense. Basically now that I've gone long enough without drinking all the bullshit that lead me to sexual addiction, HIV and then alcoholism is now perking its pointy ears up...especially now that I have someone that I want and whom I think wants me back. But even without new sobriety, a new relationship is's why the suggestion is to not begin a relationship until at least a year after you join recovery. But what I believe in appears to have thrown him in my path and we connect on so many levels, and I hope that continues.

Thank you for reading.

Friday, December 28, 2012

For Fontella Bass

Fontella Bass died yesterday at the age of 72. NYT's obit.

Song for Today

Broken Social Scene's All To All.

No one was back-handed, bitch-slapped in the making of this video.


Via Back2Stonewall

Thursday, December 27, 2012

Thursday Beau

(The I Forgot Hump Day Edition)

Via Geekgasm

Also, can anyone identify this? Specifically the brown-haired, bearded cutie doing the dishes.

Wednesday, December 26, 2012

My Soundtrack for Christmas Day

For Christmas Day, I went to two different AA meetings. The first was at 9 and was just a regular open discussion meeting. At this one I learned that there are days where all you can do is not though the two words were a one-word gerund. "Some days all I can do is "not-drinking." That's how I felt on Christmas Eve, and except for feeling like shit, it went pretty well.

The second meeting was a speaker meeting, and the high point of it was being with a new friend and my Crush. That's when the above song started creeping into the on-going flow that is my brain's eternal podcast. Mostly the words "paradise" and "reaching for heaven."

Then dinner at a friends. Followed by hanging with another friend and once again my Crush, where we spent the time hand-in-hand, his head on my shoulder, and everything lovely.

How was y'alls' Christmas? And please tell me you aren't going back out to shop today. Hugs.

After Christmas Beau

Via TrevorJizz

Sunday, December 23, 2012

Christmas With The Cocteau Twins Day 6

For the Boy I Can't Help Crushing On

The endless streets I walk along
You made them seem pretty
But now I dream in country songs
And wake in New York City

If the song sounds tinny, no worries: it's supposed to.

Saturday, December 22, 2012

Weekend Dick

Via oh yeaaah

Poor Johnny Rapid: once again getting used and abused.

Good for him.

The World Needs...

“Remember the quiet wonders. The world has more need of them than it has for warriors.” ~Charles de Lint, Moonheart

Christmas with The Cocteau Twins Day 5

Friday, December 21, 2012

Drunk Ponds and the Doctor wish you...

...a merry (drunk) Christmas.

(I find that people having a drunkenly good time now make me bitter. :p)

Christmas With the Cocteau Twins Day 4

Apocalyptic Beau

Max Emerson via back2stonewall

Yes, he's hot...but it's the tattoo of Max that does it for me!

Happy Apocalypse, y'all! And happy Solstice! and TGIF!

Via AfterElton: 5 Signs of the Upcoming Apocalypse that you've been ignoring.

Via Gizmodo: Mayan Apocalypse is total bullshit, claim Druids seems relevant...This Awesome Destroyer of Worlds Is the Best Astronomy Image of the Year

The Huffington Post is liveblogging the end of the world.

Also, Michigan schools close due to Mayan Apocalypse and we can't even get a snow day here in the Bluegrass.

Thursday, December 20, 2012

Book Review: Mary Oliver's A Thousand Mornings

From my Goodreads:

Mary Oliver is prolific enough that whenever I pick up a new book by her, I feel a moment's trepidation that "this time" may be the time that she disappoints me - that what she writes will leave me feeling flat. And every time, thankfully, she disappoints that feeling. A Thousand Mornings is simply amazing with more of Mary Oliver's observances and experiences of the world around her - at once specific to her own backyard, but able to expand to make it everyone's backyard - the World.

If you need to clean out the clutter that living tends to leave in your mind, body, and soul, pick up A Thousand Mornings, or really any book by Mary Oliver and let it roll into you, like wave after wave.

From the poem Hum, Hum:


The resurrection of the morning.
The mystery of the night.
The hummingbird's wings.
The excitement of thunder.
The rainbow in the waterfall.
Wild mustard, that rough blaze of the fields.
The mockingbird, replaying the songs of his
The bluebird with its unambitious warble
   simple yet sufficient.

The shining fish. The beak of the crow.
The new colt who came to me and leaned
   against the fence
that I might put my hands upon his warm body
   and know no fear.

Also the words of poets
a hundred or hundreds of years dead -
their words that would not be held back.


Oh the house of denial has thick walls
and very small windows
and whoever lives there, little by little,
will turn to stone.

In those years I did everything I could do
and I did it in the dark -
I mean, without understanding.

I ran away.
I ran away again.
Then, again, I ran away.

They were awfully little, those bees,
and maybe frightened,
yet unstoppably they flew on, somewhere,
to live their life.

                     Hum, hum, hum.

Image via 92nd Street Y

Your Song for the Day

Or, if you prefer at little NSFW with your music.

The Glitch Apocalypse: I Have to Believe in a Better World

Via BuzzFeed

Christmas with The Cocteau Twins Day 3

Thursday Candy Strip(p)er Beau

Via Bad Dog, No Biscuit

Wednesday, December 19, 2012

Goodnight Hug


Newtown: Firefighters etal. form human wall to block Westboro

Via The New Civil Rights Movement:

Firefighters from Newtown, Connecticut, and elsewhere, have formed a human shield to block the promised picket by the Westboro Baptist Church, who call themselves “God Hates Fags.” The WBC promised to picket the funerals of the 20 children and six adults who were killed in Friday’s Sandy Hook Elementary School massacre.

The Westboro Baptist Church announced they would be present in Newtown specifically to attend today’s funeral of Newtown’s beloved hero, Sandy Hook Principal Dawn Hochsprung.

Anonymous, the Internet hacktivist collective, took WBC’s websites down, and promised to help in Newtown also.

Stay tuned — we’ll have more soon.

Video of Golden Eagle attempting to steal baby fake, but still cool as fuck!

Via c|net

"You can clearly see that these shadows are not consistent with one another. The most likely scenario is that the baby and eagle are computer generated and were inserted into a real-world scene," Farid said in a blog post today. "Because this scene is outdoors and illuminated with a single light source (the sun), there is no physically plausible explanation for this inconsistency in shadows."

In other news, Lindy Chamberlain startled customers of her local library when she began to scream "Dingoes at my baby!" as she watched the above video.

Happy Birthday, Good Looking, Revolutionary, Wanted

Jake Gyllenhall turns 32...though I look forward to his 40th birthday when he'll finally become my husband...even IF he doesn't know it yet.

AfterElton has 32 Adorable GIFS in honor of the birthday boy. Though sadly they excluded for understandable reasons the image of him banging his girlfriend at the beginning of Jarhead (says in stage whisper: you can see his balls!) and for un-understandable reasons, him in his Santa outfit...also from Jarhead. (Come on, AfterElton, tis the Season!)

Trailer for James Franco and Travis Mathew's Interior. Leather Bar

Via World of Wonder

HGN Nate Silver is OUT's Person of the Year

Via Maybe it's just me...

The adorable Nate Silver is OUT Magazine's Person of the Year. In the interview, Nate let us in on who he is and how he views himself.

Here's a little bit from the interview:

If these pastimes—poker, baseball, debating Chinese–U.S. relations—seem atypical of the average twentysomething gay guy, perhaps it’s because gay nerds have a low profile in our culture. “To my friends, I’m kind of sexually gay but ethnically straight,” explains Silver, who came out to his parents after spending a year in London studying economics—“I don’t know how I got any work done”—and considers gay conformity as perfidious as straight conformity. He supports marriage equality, but worries that growing acceptance of gays will dent our capacity to question broader injustice.

“For me, I think the most important distinguishing characteristic is that I’m independent-minded,” he says. “I’m sure that being gay encouraged the independent-mindedness, but that same independent-mindedness makes me a little bit skeptical of parts of gay culture, I suppose.”

The rest is a good read. Please check it out.

Nate Silver: Person of the Year

Obama is TIME's Person of the Year

Via WickedGayBlog

Via Queerty: "The Times of Harvey Milk" to be preserved by National Film Registry

Via Queerty:

The Times of Harvey Milk is among the 25 films selected for preservation by the Library of Congress’ National Film Registry.

Each year the registry, created in 1989, designates 25 films historically, culturally and aesthetically important enough to be preserved by the Library, guaranteeing that they’ll become a part of the nation’s permanent visual record.

The 1984 Oscar-winning documentary by Rob Epstein chronicles the political career of the San Francisco supervisor and “Mayor of Castro” who was assassinated in 1978.

Milk was the first openly gay person elected to public office in California and subsequently the United States when he was appointed to the San Francisco Board of Supervisors.

Distributor Dennis Doros, who has advocated for Epstein’s doc to be included in the Registry for the past few years, thanked Joe Biden, noting that “the acceptance by the vice president and the president of gay rights might have sent a message to the entire government, not just the Library of Congress.”

Doros had previously lamented the Library’s lack of LGBT films as “glaring” considering the amount of other diversities represented.

Other films chosen this year by the National Film Registry include Born Yesterday, Breakfast at Tiffany’s, A Christmas Story, The Matrix and A League of Their Own, thus ensuring Madonna’s acting career will be preserved for future generations.

Calling All Knitters and Crocheters: 600 Monsters for Connecticut!

Via HuffingtonPost

On Friday evening, hours after the tragic shooting at Sandy Hook Elementary School in Newtown, Conn., a group of avid knitters and crocheters decided to get their needles to work.

Using the popular knitting site, Ravelry, they started the group “600 Monsters Strong For Connecticut” dedicated to making stuffed animals to send to every student at the school, according to the group’s Facebook page.

So far the group has just more than 1,100 members, and many have been posting photos of their monster creations on one of the group’s threads. There are a set of guidelines the knitters must follow when it comes to stitch pattern and materials used -- but there’s no limit to the level of creativity.

“This is Francis,” Ravelry user myriadflowers posted on a thread showing a picture of her monster that is grey with hints of turquoise. “I picked the name Francis because it’s my dad’s middle name, and this set of muted colours reminds me of him and the sense of assurance and strength he has always given me.”

Why monsters? While some have interpreted the design choice as representing protection, in reality the idea came from art form itself. "It’s just because Monsters tend to be simple, quick patterns to knit up,” Sarah Waller-Martin, the group’s moderator wrote in an email to the Huffington Post. “They also have a lot of variety while still retaining some similarity.”

Participants are asked to mail their wooly monster creations to Waller-Martin in Ohio, who will be driving them to Newtown sometime next spring, she told the Huffington Post. There are separate addresses for donations sent from the UK and Australia.

The group is also facilitating yarn donations for anyone with the drive to knit but without the thread to do so.

Via Towleroad: Gay Pornstar Josh Weston Dies of HIV-related Complications

Via Towleroad:

Gay adult film star Josh Weston has died, AVN reports:

Hot House Video has confirmed the passing of gay adult performer Josh Weston, who entered the industry in 2001, when he signed with Falcon.

”Adult Superstar Josh Weston succumbed to HIV-related complications on Sunday, December 16,” reported the Hot House company blog. “He was 39 years old. Weston started his career in 2001 as a Falcon Exclusive, starring some of their biggest hits from the early 2000s. After leaving that contract went on to work with other studios including Hot House where he headlined our hits Trunks 3 and Communion. Always warm and friendly and ready to laugh, Josh was loved by many and will be missed by all.”

Christmas with the Cocteau Twins Day 2

Hump Day: When Twinks Go Wild

Via Gay Bondage and Boys

Also here are four gifs of a (Bel Ami?) lovely twink having some good clean shower fun.

Tuesday, December 18, 2012

ACT-UP Co-Founder Spencer Fox Has Died

Image via Towleroad

Via back2stonewall:

Spencer Cox, who co-founded ACT-UP in the 1980′s and TAG (Treatment Action Group) and was featured in David France’s recent documentary How to Survive a Plague, has died at Columbia Presbyterian of AIDS related causes.

David France writes:

As a very young man fresh from Bennington, where he studied Theater and English Literature, he arrived in NYC after finishing just 3 years. He was diagnosed with HIV soon thereafter. By 1989, at age 20, he had become spokesman for ACT UP during its zenith through the early 90s. A member of its renowned Treatment & Data committee, and later co-founder of TAG (the Treatment Action Group), he schooled himself in the basic science of AIDS and became something of an expert, a “citizen scientist” whose ideas were sought by working scientists. In the end, Spencer wrote the drug trial protocol which TAG proposed for testing the promising protease inhibitor drugs in 1995. Adopted by industry, it helped develop rapid and reliable answers about the power of those drugs, and led to their quick approval by the FDA.

Even before ACT UP, he began work for amfAR, first as a college intern, eventually going on staff as assistant to Director of Public Affairs, responsible for communications and policy. ). He left there to co-found the Community Research Initiative on AIDS (now the AIDS Community Research Initiative of America, ACRIA) with Dr. Joseph Sonnabend and Marisa Cardinale. At ACRIA, he ran public affairs and edited all publications.

From 1994 to 1999, he was Director of the HIV Project for TAG, where he did his groundbreaking work in drug trials designs. He designed the drug trial adopted in part by Abbott as they were developing Norvir, the first Protease Inhibitor to head into human trials. It had an “open standard-of-care arm,” allowing people on the control arm to take any other anti-AIDS drugs their doctors prescribed, versus the arm taking any other anti-AIDS drugs plus Norvir. It was this study that showed a 50% drop in mortality in 6 months. Norvir was approved in late 1995. Though the results were positive, the proposal sharply divided the community, many of whom thought it was cruel to withhold Norvir on the control arm. Spencer defended himself in a controversial BARON’S coverstory that made him, briefly, the most-hated AIDS activist in America. Ultimately he was vindicated.

Cox, later founded a think tank called the Medius Institute for Gay Men’s Health, and believed that anybody who lived through the worst of the AIDS crisis has lasting trauma and tends to suffer elevated levels of problems, later in life.

Spencer Cox refused to be silent when silence was not just killing us, but was being encouraged.

He will forever be a vanguard in the gay community.

Tuesday Books

I don't know what it is, guys and gals. I imagine it must be cause of the Holiday, but I've got jack for you this week. And by "jack," I mean four books.


Esther Murphy was a brilliant New York intellectual who dazzled friends and strangers with an unstoppable flow of conversation. But she never finished the books she was contracted to write — a painful failure and yet a kind of achievement.

The quintessential fan, Mercedes de Acosta had intimate friendships with the legendary actresses and dancers of the twentieth century. Her ephemeral legacy lies in the thousands of objects she collected to preserve the memory of those performers and to honor the feelings they inspired.

An icon of haute couture and a fashion editor of British Vogue, Madge Garland held bracing views on dress that drew on her feminism, her ideas about modernity, and her love of women. Existing both vividly and invisibly at the center of cultural life, she — like Murphy and de Acosta — is now almost completely forgotten.

In All We Know, Lisa Cohen describes these women’s glamorous choices, complicated failures, and controversial personal lives with lyricism and empathy. At once a series of intimate portraits and a startling investigation into style, celebrity, sexuality, and the genre of biography itself, All We Know explores a hidden history of modernism and pays tribute to three compelling lives.

All We Know is one of Publishers Weekly's Top 10 Best Books of 2012

Ah, Prague: how I miss having tantric sex with my dwarf prince in your city's fountains!

Cosmically fast-paced and wildly imaginative, this debut novel is a perfect potion of magic and suspense

Once a city of enormous wealth and culture, Prague was home to emperors, alchemists, astronomers, and, as it’s whispered, hell portals. When music student Sarah Weston lands a summer job at Prague Castle cataloging Beethoven’s manuscripts, she has no idea how dangerous her life is about to become. Prague is a threshold, Sarah is warned, and it is steeped in blood.

Soon after Sarah arrives, strange things begin to happen. She learns that her mentor, who was working at the castle, may not have committed suicide after all. Could his cryptic notes be warnings? As Sarah parses his clues about Beethoven’s “Immortal Beloved,” she manages to get arrested, to have tantric sex in a public fountain, and to discover a time-warping drug. She also catches the attention of a four-hundred-year-old dwarf, the handsome Prince Max, and a powerful U.S. senator with secrets she will do anything to hide.

City of Dark Magic could be called a rom-com paranormal suspense novel — or it could simply be called one of the most entertaining novels of the year.

Publishers Weekly called it the "British variation on A Heartbreaking Work of Staggering Genius" by David Foster Wallace. I was going to make some comment about how it is NOT the memoir of Milo and Elijah pervs!

Billy's mother is dead. He knows - because he reads about it in magazines - that people die every day in ways that are more random and tragic and stupid than hers, but for nineteen-year-old Billy and his little brother, Oscar, their mother's death in a bungled street robbery is the most random and tragic and stupid thing that could possibly have happened to them. Now Billy must be both mother and father to Oscar, and despite what his well-meaning aunt, the PTA mothers, social services, and Oscar's own prodigal father all think, he feels certain that he is the one for the job.

The boys' new world - where bedtimes are arbitrary, tidiness is optional, and healthy home-cooked meals pile up uneaten in the freezer - is built out of chaos and fierce love, but it's also a world that teeters perilously on its axis. As Billy's obsession with his mother's missing killer grows, he risks losing sight of the one thing that really matters: the only family he has left.

Full disclosure? I'm not really into mysteries/thrillers, which this is. It made the cut because the author guessed it...cute.

A brilliant thriller from the author of the acclaimed Good Thief's Guide series asks, how can a beautiful woman simply vanish?

When Rob Hale wakes up in a hospital after a motorcycle crash, his first thought is for the gorgeous blonde, Lena, who was on the back of his bike. The doctors and police, however, insist that he was alone at the scene. The shock of the accident must have made him imagine Lena, especially since his description of her resembles his late sister, Laura.

Convinced that Lena is as real as he is, Rob teams up with Rebecca Lewis, a London-based PI who has a mysterious connection to Laura — and learns that even a close-knit community like the Isle of Man can hide dangerous secrets that will not stay safe forever.

Chris Ewan's Safe House "is an exciting, well crafted thriller, with flashes of real humour and insight." (SJ Bolton)

Tea Time Beau...

...or possibly Supper.


Cerberus Capital to sell off all assets in firearms

Via HuffingtonPost

Cerberus Capital Management, a private equity firm that owns a stake in Bushmaster, the gun manufacturer that produced the rifle used in the massacre of students and teachers at an elementary school in Connecticut, announced early Tuesday that it intends to sell that investment.

“We were shocked and deeply saddened by the events that took place at the Sandy Hook Elementary School in Newtown, CT on December 14, 2012,” the company declared in statement sent out to news outlets. “We cannot comprehend the losses suffered by the families and friends of those killed by the unthinkable crimes committed that day. No words or actions can lessen the enormity of this event or make a dent in the pain that was inflicted on so many.”

If you follow the link, there is a slide show of the Sandy Hook victims.

Celebrate Christmas With The Cocteau Twins Day 1

Pearly Dewdrops' Drops as featured in the movie The Perks of Being a Wallflower.

Tuesday GURL I Love Your Fit Beau

Via narcissing: porn & fashion

Monday, December 17, 2012

Add Some Leadbelly to Your Holiday Mix

Via Dangerous Minds: Have yourself a Southern Gothic Christmas.

Have Yourself a Very Tech-Geek Xmas

Via BoingBoing

Though, you'd think if these guys were so tech-savvy, they could've given the video better lighting.

Via Towleroad: The 50 Most Powerful Coming Outs of 2012

A good read via Towleroad - though I was surprised to see Nate Silver listed. Even in the quote listed with his entry, it doesn't seem like he's saying "Hey, I'm gay" just that he knows what it feels to be an outsider.

Meh. Good enough for me!

Doctor Who Christmas Special Prequels 1 and 2

Via Doctor Who Offical on Tumblr

Good News: Gay-For-Pay Porn Actor Cody Cummings is actually Gay via Towleroad:

“I apologize to my fans for waiting so long to make this announcement. You’ve all been so patient watching me expand my horizons and explore my sexuality onscreen, and while I’ve been hesitating to say this so long – because of all the haters – I feel the need to be honest with you. I am a proud, gay American.”

I stand, along with other parts of my anatomy, and salute you, Mr. Cummings.

Happy 30th Birthday, The Dark Crystal

Via Maybe it's just me...

BoingBoing: Needs Comma

Via BoingBoing

Via HuffingtonPost: Newspapers Post Victims' Names on Front Page, and Scarborough Changes His Mind

Via the HuffingtonPost


Visit for breaking news, world news, and news about the economy

"I knew that day that the ideologies of my past career were no longer relevant to the future that I want, that I demand for my children. Friday changed everything. It must change everything. We all must begin anew and demand that Washington's old way of doing business is no longer acceptable. Entertainment moguls don't have an absolute right to glorify murder while spreading mayhem in young minds across America. And our Bill of Rights does not guarantee gun manufacturers the absolute right to sell military-style, high-caliber, semi-automatic combat assault rifles with high-capacity magazines to whoever the hell they want.

It is time for Congress to put children before deadly dogmas. It's time for politicians to start focusing more on protecting our schoolyards than putting together their next fundraiser. It's time for Washington to stop trying to win endless wars overseas when we're losing the war at home ... For the sake of my four children and yours, I choose life and I choose change."

My Sweet Style

Via Candidly Candid Lily

Feinstein to propose reinstating the assaults weapon ban

Image via Tablet

Via The Maddow Blog:

In light of Friday's tragic violence, the Sunday shows focused heavily on the massacre in Newton, Conn., and the larger implications of the tragedy. Of particular interest was the number of Democratic officials willing to do what they were reluctant to do after other recent mass shootings: propose legislative remedies.

On NBC's "Meet the Press," Sen. Dianne Feinstein (D-Calif.) said she would, on the first day of the new Congress, propose reinstating the assaults weapons ban and prohibit high-capacity magazines. David Gregory told the senator, "What makes you think it can pass that? We've had tragedies before and nothing happens."

Feinstein replied, "It can be done," noting the long odds that were overcome in 1994 when the assault-weapons ban first became law. Of course, in 1994, there was a Democratic House, Democratic Senate, and Democratic White House -- and the conditions are hardly identical today.

What Kept Me Perky and Going All Weekend

Via BuzzFeed

Midday Beau Break

Via Bad Dog, No Biscuit

And, sometimes, animation is so sensual.

Anonymous set to destroy Westboro Baptist Church

What's the Biblical quote about removing a scourge from the face of the planet?

Via Dangerous Minds: Anonymous threaten to destroy Westboro Baptist Church

The much-hated haters of the Westboro Baptist Church, well-known for their “God Hates Fags” signs and picketing the funerals of dead soldiers, announced over the weekend that they were planning a demonstration at Sandy Hook Elementary School. Margie Phelps, a member of the Phelps clan tweeted that “fags” and gay marriage had brought the mayhem to the CT town. A musical statement from the WBC purports that God had sent the shooter (personally, I guess). Residents of Newtown don’t need this shit right now. Enter Anonymous.

Anonymous has also posted all the church members' information.

From the vimeo video page. (The video must be getting a lot of traffic cause I could not get the share options to load so I could embed the video.)

Hello, Westboro Baptist Church.

Allow us to introduce ourselves. We are Anonymous.

As you may not have acknowledged our existence, we, on the otherhand, have recognized yours. We have seen your depraved methods of disseminating your message of hate throughout The United States of America. We have witnessed you defaming the memories of those who sacrificed themselves for the security of our nation, disrupting the peace of the educational environment within high schools and universities, breeding hatred within the fragile minds of your own next of kin, desecrating the name of God by protesting in the proximity of churches and synagogues, and mangling the biblical text to conform in accordance with your malevolent cause.

Your pseudo-faith is abhorrent, and your leaders, repugnant. Your impact and cause is hazardous to the lives of millions and you fail to see the wrong in promoting the deaths of innocent people. You are self-appointed servants of God who rewrite the words of His sacred scripture to adhere to your prejudice. Your hatred supersedes your faith, and you use faith to promote your hatred.

Since your one-dimensional thought protocol will conform not to any modern logic, we will not debate, argue, or attempt to reason with you. Instead, we have unanimously deemed your organization to be harmful to the population of The United States of America, and have therefore decided to execute an agenda of action which will progressively dismantle your institution of deceitful pretext and extreme bias, and cease when your zealotry runs dry. We recognize you as serious opponents, and do not expect our campaign to terminate in a short period of time. Attrition is our weapon, and we will waste no time, money, effort, and enjoyment, in tearing your resolve into pieces, as with exposing the incongruity of your distorted faith.

Anonymous possesses a plethora of information within our network about the many divisions of Christianity and numerous other religious doctrines. Many of us are versed in the biblical text, and we can identify each and every of your violations of scripture. You abuse the Holy Bible which you do not fully comprehend and know not of the thousands of authors to impose upon other people when you can simply coalesce with your loved ones and live in the manner you deem plausible. You engage in reciprocal fornication with another man and preach adultery as a sin. You, Shirley Lynn Phelps-Roper violated Deuteronomy 5:18. As a result, your son Sam is the living, breathing proof of your act of simple loneliness. Simply put, it takes not a genius to realize an arrogant woman's loose moral string, and its predilection to progressively wither and fray.

From the time you have received this message, our attack protocol has past been executed and your downfall is underway. Do not attempt to delude yourselves into thinking you can escape our reach, for we are everywhere, and all-seeing, in the same sense as God. We are a body of individuals who fight for a purpose higher than self, and seek to bring the malevolent intent of the malefactors to light.

We will not allow you to corrupt the minds of America with your seeds of hatred. We will not allow you to inspire aggression to the social factions which you deem inferior. We will render you obsolete. We will destroy you. We are coming.

Everyone is equal.

We are Anonymous.
We are Legion.
We do not Forgive.
We do not Forget.
Expect us.

Some Good News: Tens of Thousands Rally in Paris for Same-Sex Marriage

Reuters via Joe.My.God.

Police said about 60,000 demonstrators turned out, fewer than the 100,000 who protested last month against the law due to be passed by mid-2013. Paris's gay mayor Bertrand Delanoe joined the march along with several other left-wing politicians. Marching along to drumbeats and jazz music, the protesters waved rainbow flags and held up signs saying "liberty, equality, dignity" and "hate is not a family value." One sign announced "wedding gifts for gays will boost the economy."

Among their chants was "Oui, oui, oui" (yes, yes, yes) in support of same-sex marriage, adoption rights for gay couples and access to assisted procreation methods such as artificial insemination. The Socialist government's bill would legalise gay marriage and adoption, but not assisted procreation. Left-wing deputies plan to add that option to the law, a step President Francois Hollande did not initially support but has now conceded.

Gay Unions Don't Harm Peace, Weapons Do

Via Good As You

The anti-family Catholic Pope once again spent a Christmas address attacking gay families, but it appears that local authorities have more of a problem with the dissenters than they do with that particular enabler of child molesters.

Witches Can Be Right, Giants Can Be Good

LeVar Burton explains how to talk to kids about the Sandy Hook shooting

An important reminder from Mr. Rogers:

When I was a boy and I would see scary things in the news, my mother would say to me, 'Look for the helpers. You will always find people who are helping.' To this day, especially in times of disaster, I remember my mother's words, and I am comforted by realizing that there are still so many helpers - so many caring people in the world.

Here is a particularly good piece by Ezra Klein that I shared this weekend on Facebook: 9 facts about guns and mass shootings in the US

Some Conservatives question gun dogma in wake of elementary school shooting.

Even Rupert Murdoch called for the ban of automatic weapons.

In my Sunday morning meeting, someone talked about going to Mass that morning to find that the priest was handing out candles with the names of the victims on them. Then people would go up and light a votive for that particular victim. What he couldn't understand - and maybe understanding is just a mental game - was that the priest had a candle with the name of Adam Lanza on it. This reminded me of my friend Alice's Facebook status...that everyone in this tragedy including the shooter deserves our compassion.

Who was Adam Lanza?

In the critique of how society affects/creates these kinds of tragedies, I found this one rather eye-opening in that it was something that I'd already begun to feel was correct. Another Facebook friend said that he'd gotten quite a bit of hate mail at the suggestion that the mainstream media was using the massacre and our collective inability to turn away from it as a means to sell more ads. This also seems correct.

Roger Ebert on how the press reports mass killings

Let me tell you a story. The day after Columbine, I was interviewed for the Tom Brokaw news program. The reporter had been assigned a theory and was seeking sound bites to support it. "Wouldn't you say," she asked, "that killings like this are influenced by violent movies?" No, I said, I wouldn't say that. "But what about 'Basketball Diaries'?" she asked. "Doesn't that have a scene of a boy walking into a school with a machine gun?" The obscure 1995 Leonardo Di Caprio movie did indeed have a brief fantasy scene of that nature, I said, but the movie failed at the box office (it grossed only $2.5 million), and it's unlikely the Columbine killers saw it.

The reporter looked disappointed, so I offered her my theory. "Events like this," I said, "if they are influenced by anything, are influenced by news programs like your own. When an unbalanced kid walks into a school and starts shooting, it becomes a major media event. Cable news drops ordinary programming and goes around the clock with it. The story is assigned a logo and a theme song; these two kids were packaged as the Trench Coat Mafia. The message is clear to other disturbed kids around the country: If I shoot up my school, I can be famous. The TV will talk about nothing else but me. Experts will try to figure out what I was thinking. The kids and teachers at school will see they shouldn't have messed with me. I'll go out in a blaze of glory."

In short, I said, events like Columbine are influenced far less by violent movies than by CNN, the NBC Nightly News and all the other news media, who glorify the killers in the guise of "explaining" them. I commended the policy at the Sun-Times, where our editor said the paper would no longer feature school killings on Page 1. The reporter thanked me and turned off the camera. Of course the interview was never used. They found plenty of talking heads to condemn violent movies, and everybody was happy.

A third Facebook friend questioned the killers' desires for attention. I do believe that it is there: overall, the killing and the subsequent suicide screams, "See? See how much I hurt? See how much I'm willing to hurt to make the hurt go away?" As someone who has spent quite a bit of time with people into cutting, and even my own dive into alcoholism, it makes sense.

I had starred a couple of items in my Google Reader to show how idiots like Mike Huckabee and Michelle Malkin were using the events of Friday to confirm their statuses as slime, but I did not think it conducive to give them the attention they so sorely crave. So instead I want to finish this post with a little bit about the principal of Sandy Hook Elementary School who died Friday trying to protect the children in her care.

Remembering Sandy Hook principal Dawn Hochsprung:

One of the victims of the shooting in Newtown, Conn. on Friday was school principal Dawn Hochsprung, who friends remember as a "hero" who dedicated to helping kids. Hochsprung, 47, was also raising five girls at home – two of her own daughters and three step-children.

Reports claim that Hochsprung and another adult at the school ran towards the sounds of gunfire. Today reports that her friends say they were not surprised. Former colleague Gerald Stomski said that "when Dawn was the principal in our school system, we talked about this exact type of incident. She certainly was inspiring and put her children first, and it was no surprise to me that she came to them. She’s actually a hero today."

Funerals begin for the victims later today.

The title of this post comes from the Sondheim song No One is Alone from the musical Into the Woods. It is a testament, to me, of the interconnectedness of all things: no one is alone, no one acts alone without it affecting others.

Monday Morning Beau

Via Castle's Sex and Scandal in Seattle

Saturday, December 15, 2012

Weekend Dick

Via SCRUFFY Jizz Monkey

Here. Let me help you get comfortable.

UPDATE: I thought after the tragedy in Connecticut, that I would remove this. That possibly - most likely - it isn't appropriate, but I think right now - though we are not done, and that we need to do more - we need distraction, maybe a little joy. A reminder that we are alive. It has been shown that watching porn has the same effect as some pain medications, and at times people who can't take a particular drug or drugs in general are prescribed their favorite porno. So this is my rationalization for keeping this on the blog today, though I'm moving it to a later time. Take care, and I love you guys.