Wednesday, July 17, 2013

They see me limpin, they be bloggin

Hey, y'all. As you may or may not have noticed, the blog is still limping. I would say limping along but that suggests movement that I can't lay claim to. So just "limping" will have to do.

I hope you all are having a great summer and just keep checking back. :)

Monday, July 15, 2013

I Feel Your Pain

In her book Self-Inflicted Wounds, comedian, actress, and cohost of CBS’s daytime hit show The Talk, Aisha Tyler recounts a series of epic mistakes and hilarious stories of crushing personal humiliation, and the personal insights and authentic wisdom she gathered along the way.

The essays in Self-Inflicted Wounds are refreshingly and sometimes brutally honest, surprising, and laugh-out-loud funny, vividly translating the brand of humor Tyler has cultivated through her successful standup career, as well as the strong voice and unique point of view she expresses on her taste-making comedy podcast Girl on Guy.

Riotous, revealing, and wonderfully relatable, Aisha Tyler’s Self-Inflicted Wounds: Heartwarming Tales of Epic Humiliation is about the power of calamity to shape life, learning, and success.

Biomusique's Redemption

Answers Could Come Slowly

Via BuzzFeed:

The death of 31-year-old Glee star Cory Monteith — whose body was found Saturday in a Vancouver hotel — has shocked fans. Monteith voluntarily checked himself into a treatment center for substance addiction in the spring, so the assumption among both the media and social media speculators has been that the actor and singer died of a drug overdose.

In AA, we talk about a conundrum of life - granted I lean towards those who speculate that Monteith died of an overdose - a point in our using lives that we can no longer live with drugs and alcohol but we cannot live without it. Either instance feels like death.

Alcoholism is a progressive disease, meaning even if you've gotten some clean time under your belt, if you should start again, you don't slowly build to the levels of use you had before. You start full tilt where you left off previously, and I imagine that if your body to some degree isn't used to it, over-dosing becomes easier - even if your head is telling you, "oh, this is where I was before, so it should be okay."

I imagine much of the negative backlash against Monteith will come from those who CAN successfully drink. Those who don't believe alcoholism is a disease. Those who think that Monteith could simply quit.

National Bar Association Demands Justice for Trayvon Martin

Image via Esquire

Via Maybe it's just me...:

"The verdict," stated NBA President John E. Page "says an unarmed college-bound Black teen can be profiled, stalked, confronted and killed by an armed neighborhood watchman with hollow tip point bullets. We express our heartfelt condolences to Trayvon Martin's family on this tragic verdict."

Thursday, July 4, 2013

What I Think of When I Think About the 4th Part 2

I probably haven't watched this movie since I wrote down this monologue in 2006. I have it one of the few journals that I have that survived that time. I think the movie meant more for me because at the time I was in a fairly heinous relationship: I was newly positive, I was starting down the slippery slope of alcoholism, but I was also on mood medication and not taking them as prescribe, so I'd go through these moments of withdrawal that typically involved the destruction of several years worth of journals - not just because of the withdrawal but because my boyfriend at the time was reading those journals and using what he read as ammunition in our arguments.

A life without dignity is worthless.

I was born in a refugee camp. I was allowed to leave the West Bank only once. I was 6 at the time and needed surgery. Just that one time. Life here is like life imprisonment. The crimes of the occupation are countless. The worst crime of all is to exploit the people's weaknesses, and turn them into collaborators. By doing that, they not only kill the resistance, they also ruin families, ruin their dignity and ruin an entire people.

When my father was executed, I was 10 years old. He was a good person. But he grew weak. For that, I hold the occupation responsible. They must understand that if they recruit collaborators, they must pay the price for it.

A life without dignity is worthless. Especially when it reminds you, day after day, of humiliation and weakness. And the world watches cowardly, indifferently. If you're all alone, faced with this oppression, you have to find a way to stop the injustice.

They must understand that if there's no security for us, there'll be none for them either. It's not about power. Their power doesn't help them.

I tried to deliver this message to them, but I couldn't find another way.

Even worse, they've convinced the world and themselves that they are the victims. How can that be? How can the occupier be the victim?

If they take on the role of oppressor and victim, then I have no other choice but to also be a victim ad a murderer as well.

I don't know how you'll decide, but I will not return to the refugee camp.

4th of July and Human Rights and Pride all rolled into one

What I Think of When I Think of the 4th Part 1

I just finished watching V for Vendetta which I tend to watch a lot, but I always make a point of watching on 4th of July too. Especially today with all the rain.

The following is probably for me the most poignant part of the whole movie.

I know there's no way I can convince you this is not one of their tricks, but I don't care. I am me. My name is Valerie. I don't think I'll live much longer, and I wanted to tell someone about my life. This is the only autobiography that I will ever write and, God, I'm writing it on toilet paper.

I was born in Nottingham in 1985. I don't remember much of those early years, but I do remember the rain. My grandmother owned a farm in Tottlebrook, and she used to tell me that God was in the rain.

I passed my 11 plus and went to a girls' grammar. It was at school that I met my first girlfriend. Her name was Sarah. It was her wrists. They were beautiful. I thought we would love each other forever.

I remember our teacher telling us that it was an adolescent phase that people outgrew. Sarah did. I didn't.

In 2002, I feel in love with a girl named Christina. That year I came out to my parents. I couldn't have done it without Chris holding my hand.

My father wouldn't look at me. He told me to go and never come back. My mother said nothing. But I'd only told them the truth. Was that so selfish?

Our integrity sells for so little, but it is all we really have. It is the very last inch of us. But within that inch, we are free.

I'd always known what I wanted to do with my life, and in 2015, I starred in my first film, The Salt Flats. It was the most important role of my life. Not because of my career, but because that was how I met Ruth.

the first time we kissed,I knew I never wanted to kiss any other lips but hers again.

We moved to a small flat in London together. She grew Scarlet Carsons for me in our windowbox and our place always smelt of roses.

Those were the best years of my life.

But America's war grew worse and worse, and eventually came to London. After that, there were no roses anymore. Not for anyone.

I remember how the meaning of words began to change. How unfamiliar words like "collateral" and "rendition" became frightening, while things like "Norsefire" and the "Articles of Allegiance" became powerful.

I remember how "different" became dangerouos.

I still don't understand it, why they hate us so much. They took Ruth while she was out buying food. I've never cried so hard in my life.

It wasn't long til they came for me.

It seems strange that my life should end in such a terrible place. But for three years, I had roses and apologized to no one.

I shall die here. Every inch of me shall perish. Every inch but one.

An inch. It is small, and it is fragile, and it is the only thing in the world worth having. We must never lost it or give it away. We must never let them take it from us.

I hope that, whoever you are, you escape this place. I hope that the world turns and that things get better.

But what I hope most of all is that you understand what I mean when I tell you that even though I do not know you and even though I may never meet you, laugh with you, cry with you or kiss you, I love you. With all my heart, I love you.

Valerie

Happy 4th of July Beau

Via Cum Hunter

Spending a little time warming up the rocket and waiting for the sparks to fly.

Thursday Beau: Sleeping Pups

Via The Furry Librarian

Wednesday, July 3, 2013

Happy Hump Day

Via Wankspiration

A good ass sometimes makes a good place to rest your hear.

Tuesday, July 2, 2013

Trailer for Boxtrolls

GIF via BuzzFeed where you can also find the teaser trailer for the movie Boxtrolls...which looks amazing!

This is from the same animation company that brought us ParaNorman - which you should see if you haven't - and which included a gay character that, of course, pissed off all the uptight types.

Also, I'm sorry I can't have the trailer actually embedded here. I couldn't find the embed code on the BuzzFeed post nor is the trailer on YouTube. Meh. IDK.

Tuesday Beau: Colby Keller is a reader

Via FuckYearQueer

I take this as Colby Keller suggesting you read Justin Spring's The Secret Historian. Now we just need to get Keller a copy of Sam Steward's An Obscene Diary: The Visual World of Sam Steward. I'd totally watch Keller masturbate or get fucked to that!

Monday, July 1, 2013

Currently Reading

I've loved Angela Carter ever since I first learned of her...I have a vague recollection of seeing the Neil Jordan/Angela Carter movie The Company of Wolves in the 80s...but obviously I could be confused. I've read a couple of her books, but this is the first time that I've read The Bloody Chamber, her collection of feminist and darker fairy tale retellings, from which The Company of Wolves comes.

On her eighteenth birthday, my mother had disposed of a man-eating tiger that had ravaged the villages in the hills north of Hanoi. Now, without a moment's hesitation, she raised my father's gun, took aim and put a single, irreproachable bullet through my husband's head.
The Bloody Chamber, 44

Although her father had told her of the nature of the one who waited for her, she could not control an instinctual shudder of fear when she saw him, for a lion is a lion and a man is a man and, though lions are more beautiful by far than we are, yet they belong to a different order of beauty, and, besides, they have no respect for us: why should they? Yet wild things have a far more rational fear of us than is ours of them, and some kind of sadness in his agate eyes, that looked almost blind, as if sick of sigh, moved her heart.
The Courtship of Mr Lyon, 52

New Book, Christian Nation: the blurb contains the most frightening sentence clause ever to be utter...

Via Goodreads

“They said what they would do, and we did not listen. Then they did what they said they would do.”

So ends the first chapter of this brilliantly readable counterfactual novel, reminding us that America’s Christian fundamentalists have been consistently clear about their vision for a “Christian Nation” and dead serious about acquiring the political power to achieve it. When President McCain dies and Sarah Palin becomes president, the reader, along with the nation, stumbles down a terrifyingly credible path toward theocracy, realizing too late that the Christian right meant precisely what it said.

In the spirit of Philip Roth’s The Plot Against America, one of America’s foremost lawyers lays out in chilling detail what such a future might look like: constitutional protections dismantled; all aspects of life dominated by an authoritarian law called “The Blessing,” enforced by a reconfigured Internet known as the “Purity Web.” Those who defy this system, among them the narrator, live on the edges of society, sustained by the belief that democracy will rise to triumph over such tyrannical oppression.

That clause, OBVIOUSLY, would be, "When President McCain dies and Sarah Palin becomes president..." *SHUDDER

In related news: Texas legislature fails on abortion bill, but passes masturbation bill that would outlaw male masturbation and require the purchase of a permit to own male sex toys. Mason Wyler and the city of Austin seek asylum in Switzerland. Molly Ivins returns as modern-day Lady Stoneheart.

Gay Married Man First to Receive Green Card

Image via the NYT

Via StarTribune

FORT LAUDERDALE, Fla. — A Bulgarian graduate student and his American husband are the first gay couple in the nation to have their green card petition approved after the Supreme Court ruling on same-sex marriages, their lawyer says.

But Traian Popov, here on a student visa, won't be able to work or visit his family back home for at least another six months while his green card can be processed. And his marriage to Julian Marsh, performed in New York, still won't be recognized in Florida where they live.

"It's unbelievable how that impacts you," Marsh told The Associated Press on Sunday. "They make you feel more and more like a second-class citizen and they don't want you. And that's how I feel about Florida."

Two days after the Supreme Court struck down a provision of a federal law denying federal benefits to married gay couples, Marsh and Popov were notified Friday afternoon that their green card petition was approved by U.S. Citizenship and Immigration Services.

The U.S. Department of Homeland Security could not immediately confirm Monday whether this case was the first. But the couple's lawyer, Lavi Soloway of The DOMA Project, says his organization has filed about 100 green-card petitions for same-sex couples since 2010 and expects more to be approved in the next few days.

The Supreme Court ruling is clear for same-sex couples who live in the 13 states that allow same-sex marriages, but for couples like Marsh and Popov who traveled to another state to get married, the latest victory for marriage equality is bittersweet.

"We would like our marriage to be recognized even in a state where it wasn't performed in," Popov said. "We want civil recognition."

Florida voters approved a constitutional amendment in 2008 banning same-sex marriages, and it will take approval from 60 percent of voters to overturn it if the issue is put on the ballot again.

The couple said they met in 2011 at a friend's party and began dating shortly after.

"We just really liked each other and I knew this was the man I wanted to be with," Marsh said. Six months after, exactly to the day, he asked Popov to move in and by 2012 they were married in in Brooklyn, N.Y.

Popov, who is studying for a master's degree in social sciences, was able to remain in the U.S. as long as he was enrolled in school. When he graduated, though, he would have had to leave the country if DOMA was not struck down.

"I wanted to stay with him forever in the country that we chose to be in," Marsh said. And the pair began planning their next move — both have a European background and Marsh is also a Canadian citizen.

But the couple wanted to stay in Fort Lauderdale, where they live with their two Yorkshire terriers. So they reached out to The DOMA Project, which works to stop deportations and separations of gay couples caused by the Defense of Marriage Act.

"I started crying," said attorney and DOMA Project co-founder Lavi Soloway of when he found out that not only DOMA was overturned, but that Marsh and Popov would be able to stay together in the U.S. He said he was working to help dozens of other couples facing similar separations.

Popov said the couple feels they've been vindicated.

"It's still overwhelming, and we would like to make a difference in Florida," Marsh said.