I'm Not Quite Sure How I Feel About This
I have admired Cynthia Nixon ever since she came out, and partly I get her point (i.e. not letting bigots define the terms of the debate) but I also understand why many people are upset by this...
Via World of Wonder
“I gave a speech recently, an empowerment speech to a gay audience, and it included the line ‘I’ve been straight and I’ve been gay, and gay is better.’ And they tried to get me to change it, because they said it implies that homosexuality can be a choice. And for me, it is a choice. I understand that for many people it’s not, but for me it’s a choice, and you don’t get to define my gayness for me. A certain section of our community is very concerned that it not be seen as a choice, because if it’s a choice, then we could opt out. I say it doesn’t matter if we flew here or we swam here, it matters that we are here and we are one group and let us stop trying to make a litmus test for who is considered gay and who is not. As you can tell, I am very annoyed about this issue. Why can’t it be a choice? Why is that any less legitimate? It seems we’re just ceding this point to bigots who are demanding it, and I don’t think that they should define the terms of the debate. I also feel like people think I was walking around in a cloud and didn’t realize I was gay, which I find really offensive. I find it offensive to me, but I also find it offensive to all the men I’ve been out with.”
I also know that with my understanding of both gender studies and feminism that to some degree we should be able to choose whom we love. I imagine that there is a particular percentage of the population that being gay could be a choice - and I'm not simple meaning people who consider themselves bisexual or possibly Sophie B. Hawkins.
I still admire Ms. Nixon, but I think her comments given the current state of politics, the current state of gay people in the world, and the current state of gay teens in the US, I think her comments are ill-timed and quite thoughtless.